Mom and Dad, how did you learn about dating, boundaries, and intimacy? Did most of us receive specific instructions or did we learn as we go? How often were those moments uncomfortable or even scary – whether for us or a partner? How about your teen? When will your son or daughter engage in sexual activity: kissing, fondling, oral sex, or intercourse? Will it be on his or her terms? Get ready for a direct, energetic and enlightening discussion with author, speaker, and expert Mike Domitrz.
As the Founder of The Center for Respect, Mike Domitrz has produced 2 critically-acclaimed books and spoken on 4 continents – to tens of thousands each year. You may have seen him quoted in Forbes or The Wall Street Journal. Maybe you’ve seen him as a guest expert on Dateline NBC’s “My Kid Would Never Do That” Series.
Mike’s award-winning DVD and book set “Help! My Teen is Dating. Real Solutions to Tough Conversations” is hailed by parents and educators as a “Must Have.” We are honored to have him as a guest on this episode where he holds nothing back in helping parents engage with their kids on these vitally necessary conversations.
- What are some common mistakes parents make when talking to their teens about sex?
- When fear comes forward in a parent’s life, the first reaction is to try and control our teen to protect them.
- Parents need to take a step back and empower their children with yes and no decisions.
- Have you been guilty of telling your child what to wear and what not to wear?
- The second biggest mistake parents make is that they come from a place of rage instead of love. This scares teens and they don’t want to admit their mistakes to you.
- How do you help your teen see you as somebody in their corner?
- Best ways to relate to your child? Tell them you get it. Mike shares how to approach this in the best way.
- What unconscious (and bad!) lessons are parents teaching their children about consent?
- Children need education to understand when they are and are not ready for sex. Flatly saying ‘no’ doesn’t equip them for success.
- What are your worst fears as parents? Talk about them.
- How do you talk to your children about porn? Should you?
- You can’t hide google, and children are tech savvy. Even if you have all the porn blockers in the world, their friend’s don’t.
- Porn is a big educational source for children. Isn’t that scary! This is why you need to have the conversation on what’s right or wrong before the porn stars do.
- Mike shares some of the common misconception’s parents make about their children, or other people’s children.
- What resources are out there for parents to have these tough conversations with their children?
- Action is what matters in the end. Educate yourself, and then take action. The responsibility is on you as a parent to engage in the conversation!
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Quotes:
“Whatever you do, just say no! Well, the child has no ownership of that! You didn’t let them make the choice.”
“The second you say, ‘I can’t imagine what you’re going through.’ to your teen. Your teen has every right to think, ‘Then stop talking to me if you can’t understand me.’”
“Research shows that the age the child sees porn for the first time is between 11 and 12 years old. It’s an accidental google.”
